Our Saturday was, and really the whole month has been, very busy. As a rare Sunday with no scheduled activities, naturally I have a ton of things on my todo list. Tomorrow is my test in emergency medicine, followed by a short presentation on the topic of my choosing. Yesterday I borrowed a book as preparation for today’s whole day devoted to studying and creating a powerpoint for an as-yet-undetermined topic. I’ll be productive and studious, I tell myself, all while accomplishing the usual necessary tasks of the weekend to prepare for the usual hellacious week.
I am awakened by the dog at 0600. I am mad. But I take her out, accompanied by Zoe. It is the nicest five minutes we have had in awhile, commenting on a lovely fullish moon and some things I’ve now forgotten. Determined to get just one morning of sleep, I return to bed, only to be plagued by my hamster wheel of todo list items and one I had forgotten – a quick email remedies this – but unleashes another set of tasks. Eventually, I drift off again for much too long, finally getting out of bed around 1100.
You know how when you sleep longer than you planned, you’re grateful but feel really behind for the day? So I set about checking off the todo list, putting away dishes, getting people & animals brunch, starting laundry, cooking a chicken, contemplating the correct spot for the half-eaten princess shoe that has been sitting on the counter, fielding a constant barrage of requests for play dates despite the answer being, repeatedly, NO – the usual. I sit down with my coffee and read several pages. I am proud. Off to a good start, I say. Feeling very studious, I suggest that Zoe begin her homework. We read one page.
There is a fight.
I am the insanely frustrated and fuming person with bedhead, in her pajamas and Danskos, carrying an open book, stomping around the apartment complex trying to calm down. It begins to drizzle. I return home, dress, and pack my things for a day of studying outside the house. Meanwhile Joel has coaxed Zoe into apologizing and encourages me to talk with her. We make up, and I decide to stay home. I’m not sure what brings it on, but there is a decision to move the fish tank from her room into the living room. Cleaning – of the fish tank itself, and the place it will go, and the place all that stuff was in before will go – ensues. The fish are relocated and happy, but Zoe’s room needs attention. We clean her room. And then her closet. And then the bathroom, and the hallway, and the living room. It’s time to eat again, and we do. It’s 1800. I realize for the first time in hours that I haven’t worked on anything for tomorrow. I text friends for topic ideas. I open my computer, reply to emails, adjust the YouTube video of Zoe’s Rockets game performance, attempt to archive some school emails and lose them, tweet about it, and remember I have to make a presentation for tomorrow. Oh and study for a test.
I choose the topic of seizures and dig in. So far I’ve made way too many slides, but I’m happy with my progress. It’s time for bed. I take the sheets from the laundry and am successful in enlisting help making the bed. Leaning over to tuck in the corner, I am plowed in the side of the head by a charging dog. I do not pass out. Joel administers aid. I sit in the floor of the bathroom imagining the possible injuries to my brain and what it means for my future while holding a Hello Kitty ice pack to my head. I’m unconcerned about the idiot dog whose head is evidently harder than mine.
Next it’s bath time. I’ve used all the hot water with the laundry and dishwasher, so I use the electric kettle to warm Zoe’s bath. I blog. And I’ve miles to go before I sleep.






Hello,
Just stumbled across your page – purely by accident … Well I will make this short and sweet, because tomorrow I have school and much like you, I spent my day doing homework for my EMT class … And much like yourself again, I too was diagnosed with ovarian cancer at a young age… And I found my cancer purely by chance. I too was put on bleomycin, but I was quickly taken off because it made me deathly ill. I was diagnosed End stage 4 at 25 yrs old. My daughter was the tender age of 3 1/2 when this whole process began. Again, such like your self, I had my rt ovary removed and when they did the peritoneal washings, they discovered that the cancer had spread into a few of the lymph nodes that they biopsied as well… Forgive me for rambling, but I have never found another survivor with such a remarkably similar story as your; I guess I’m just a bit dumbfounded! Well, aside from a few bumps in the road of health, I can happily and proudly say that I am a 10 1/2 year survivor … God has blessed my husband and I with 2 more children and I now tell everyone I get an opportunity to speak to about this, how important self advocacy is in terms of our health care… It was touch and go there for a while, but here I am and I’m not planning on going anywhere without a good fight… So much more to my story, and so much that I didn’t finish reading of your ( just wanted to hurry up and get this note out to you!) … I thank you so much for listening and for having this site up… There is always hope!!! Have a blessed night… Erica
Ps. My hemorrhagic cyst that hung from my ovary was only 10 centimeters – which was painfully big enough- I can not imagine how humongous and awful feeling yours must have been….
Btw – I was completely Asymtomatic aside from my cyst, which was a god sent in disguise- with out it, I would most likely would have been dead years ago!
Hi, Erica,
I tried to email you, but it bounced back to me. Thank you for your comment and for sharing your story with me! It’s always refreshing to hear of survivors, especially those who have gone on to have children. It gives the women who are diagnosed so young lots of hope! I’m glad you are healthy and hope your studies are going well. I’d love to know how many people enter the health care field after surviving cancer. I would imagine it is a pretty high percentage.
Take care of yourself and keep me updated!
Kind regards,
Blake